I hate to say it, but told ya so!

I'm at home tonight, J2 had to bail on our date again... which I actually expected to happen. I see a pattern forming. He was lovely about it, promising a 'rematch' soon, but we all know what they are like don't we ladies... Once he meets me it will probably be a done deal, I can be super-charming when I set my sights on someone. He sounds nice, he's closer to my age than most, he is (or claims to be) single, and is not limited to a strict SD/SB arrangement but understands that his business life, being as erratic as it is, is not condusive to a 'normal' relationship and so will ensure his 'baby' is looked after to compensate for his absences (or will pay for her to accompany him).

At any rate I've had a nice evening, I hung out with my flatmates whom I rarely see because I'm out so much - they call me the phantom flatmate heh heh - and we watched a movie which, incidentally, involved a younger guy entering into an 'arrangement' with an older woman (Stockard Channing) and then falling in love with her daughter whom he didn't know was her daughter... it was a decent movie actually - can't remember the name of it though doh!

I'm seeing Nick again before the end of the week, and also Mark if he gets better soon he's been rather ill the poor petal. Nick is super-keen, very available, and I would say he wants to move on with something very quickly. As we haven't discussed specifics yet I don't know what frequency or arrangements he's comfortable with, I guess we'll work that out soon, I hope it's not too often though or I'll have to learn how to juggle!

Dean - a bit more on my SD. You wouldn't know he had money, he doesn't dress up, has an old cheap watch, doesn't have a car, lives in a small and very understated place but in a posh part of town, and doesn't spend a lot of money on creature comforts, but he's nice, considerate and respectful, I like that. I think if we continue, then this arrangement will be a bit more understated, a lot less flashy than Nick's - who says he likes to go out a lot and splash the cash around (yes please, thank you very much!) so hopefully no chance of getting caught . I'm still not convinced I'll do the multi-daddy thing yet, I guess I'm still feeling it out, but I like Dean, and I like Nigel, and I like Mark... and I'll probably like J2.... what's a girl to do?

The return....

I honestly didn't expect it, but J2 has resurfaced and so we're meeting up tomorrow night. I promise that if it actually goes ahead this time I will update in detail, haha!

Tonight I was supposed to spend with Dean but he's not feeling well so has postponed. I don't mind at all - in fact I've been so busy lately that I've neglected myself a bit so tonight I'm catching up on hair, nails and de-fuzzing various bits of my anatomy. Oh and cleaning the bathroom, proving that I am a domestic goddess after all LOL!

I went shopping for supplies with some of the cash I got from Dean, and I'm all stocked up now. to be honest, I don't really need the money, I'm not in the Sugar Game for purely cash purposes, I'm in it for the experience. I have always had my own money, always - and I mean ALWAYS - paid my own way, but now I think it's my turn to let someone spoil me for a change. Each time someone else pulls out a credit card to pay for dinner or drinks I feel guilty... (note to self: really must get over that asap!) I know, I know, I'm stupid - I guess it's just I've always been so independent. Oh I've had stints of broke-ness, don't worry about that! I lived on the side of the road in a vehicle for a few months when I was at my lowest. But that time passed, I was able to pick myself up, dust myself off, and hey presto here I am!

Ladies, thank you for your wonderful comments, it's great to meet you all :) Here's to a happy, healthy, and very sugary future for us all :)

Honey xx

Up to date

Well I have a SD, it's official. It's Dean, and so far he's been super-lovely. More on him later....

This week I've had such a busy week. I didn't end up meeting J2, he texted saying he was stuck in his city and couldn't get in for our date, but we should reschedule. I told him when I was free and we 'tentatively' re-arranged. Something didn't quite feel right, so when I got home I texted him to ask that, since he was stuck where he was with (apparently) no plans for the evening, would he like to have a chat on the phone with me. He said yes but a bit later... well it never happened. I texted him as I was going to bed and he only replied with 'Nite xx' - no apology for not calling, nothing. I haven't texted or emailed him since, and haven't heard from him at all. Men are so predictable!

So I had a few nights out planned for social occasions and a work function, which would keep me busy, then I messaged Dean to see if he was free the night J2 and I had 'tentatively' rearranged for - there was no way in hell I was going to stay home that night, so yes I double-booked myself but... J2 didn't contact me to confirm, so I went to see Dean instead.

We had a lovely evening, the food and wine was great and he's a nice guy - a little bit nerdy but then, I always did love my nerds, LOL! So we've negotiated an 'allowance' and I now have a new SD. I'll see him again this week, and he's gifted me with some cashola. It's my birthday in the next few weeks so it will be interesting to see what he gets for me, hope it's something nice :)

And so here begins the next chapter in my life.... I have a few decisions to make - do I stick with one SD who I won't see very often as he's very busy, or do I perhaps find another to help fill in the time? What do y'all think?

Offers...

Just a mega-quick update... this week has been very productive, I have not one but two offers on the table. Am just on my way out the door to meet with one of my potentials to negotiate further. Will update more in-depth tomorrow :)

HB x

I have my first follower :)

Wow I have my first follower - hi Sweetie!! I'm so chuffed, thank you :-))

J1 meeting

Wow well he obviously was very impressed by what he saw, he asked me to get involved with him in the first 10 mins of our date! Haven't discussed specifics but he's married and is looking for a proper SB... has had a couple in the past and spoke of them fondly which, as I've said before, to me that's a good sign. So I now have one more newbie to date and then some big decisions to make...

HB x

Dean

Just back from a nice date with SD Dean, he is decent looking, and a complete gentleman. He was a bit uncomfortable at the start but I made sure to initiate conversation if there was the potential for any uncomfortable silences, and did my best to let him know subtly that tonight he had my complete and undiveded attention. I think I achieved my goals :)

He told me he's met 8 or 9 other SB's and most of them are nothing like their profiles, state they are many years younger than they actually are, and barely resemble their photos as they've been retouched or are of someone else completely. He told me he was very pleased that I look the same as in my pics, and so I should do though as my photos are natural, untouched and current.

To be honest, I'm relatively confident that I'll hear from him about pursuing an arrangement but I'm not going to count my chickens just yet :) Plus I'm still keeping my options open... I have another two dates lined up for monday and tuesday, let's call them J1 and J2. I am very keen to meet J1 and J2 and see if there is any chemistry, especially J2, although knowing my luck it will be a disaster, but I really, truly hope not... Please, karma Gods, be kind to me?

HoneyBaby xx

Nick

I joined SD.com and holy shit I got so many messages straight up - 20 in 12 hours, not including those stupid Hotlist ones.... I'm trying to do the right thing and respond to each one but it takes up so much time.

So I've met one of the guys off SD I'll call him Nick, he was lovely - considerably wealthy, only wants to see me about once a week and occasional weekends. We haven't discussed any financial arrangements yet, we were enjoying our date too much. He's very keen.... and has good potential too. We've arranged to meet again for a quick lunch or coffee through the week next week so will update more once that's happened. Got a date tomorrow with a guy I'll call Dean - tell you all about it afterwards :)

HB x

Met Aran

I met Aran near his place and we went to a pub for a drink. We talked for a couple of hours, he's quite an interesting character, and we've arranged to meet again in a week's time. He's just started on the sites same as me so I guess he's keeping his options open, which is understandable. Not a lot more to tell about him, he's a bit odd, but not in a bad way, just maybe uncomfortable around women or something.

Met Mark

Well I've just come back from meeting Mark, it went VERY well and he wants to see me again but he's off on a long trip in a few days so we won't be able to hook up again for a while.

He met me outside a train station close to my work - he came to me rather than me going to him which I thought was extremely nice of him. He's about 25 years older than me and is a total gentleman, we chatted over couple of glasses of champagne and we both thoroughly enjoyed the
conversation, never was it uncomfortable and I found him so interesting and utterly charming. My goodness I'm almost swooning :)

We ended up going for a lovely meal at a nearby restaurant and ended the evening with him walking me back to the station and me making sure he got in a cab to go home. He's had a small number of SB arrangements in the past which I asked him for some details on. I noticed he spoke fondly of them, which is a good sign in my opinion. Unfortunately now he's away for a while, and he hopes I don't find another SD before he gets back, I take that as a very good indication that he wants to see a bit more of me...

I think I've just had what almost feels like a real 'date', wow it feels nice! I like it.

Met Jonathan

Well I met Jonathan and it was as I expected, he's a nice guy, not bad looking, very driven, and huge sex drive - so much so that I simply wouldn't be able to keep up with him. He was a very interesting character though, just not right for me... Next!!

HB x

Mark

I received a few messages from a gent named Mark. His profile comes across as a teensy bit sleazy but you can never tell if its all bravado or if its really how he'll be in the flesh, so I have agreed to meet him for a drink. He's looking for a SB so I'll see if there's any chemistry or not. Benefit of the doubt, and all that...

HB x

Jonathan

I sent an email to a guy I'll call Jonathan, he replied so we exchanged a few messages then he wanted to talk so I called him. He sounds great, only thing is he really likes a lot of sex, and by that I mean a LOT - at least 3x a day every day... In all honesty I don't think I would be able to keep up with him, which concerns me, but everything else about him is great. I've agreed to meet him for a drink and maybe dinner if we like each other, the sex thing still bothers me though. Based on that I don't think this one is going to go anywhere, but as I have said before you never know until you try... So I'll give him a try!

Aran

Well I got my first response message - I received a message back from a guy named Aran, a wealthy middle eastern gent that I contacted. He sounds nice, and seems generous to a fault, we just finished a one-and-a-half hour telephone conversation so I'm going to meet him for a drink to find out more about him. He's only the first one so I won't count my chickens just yet! Hope it goes well. Will update once the meeting is over :)

HB x

Going fishing

After registering with Seeking Arrangement I took a look around at who might be available as a potential Sugar Daddy, and to be honest I wasn't too impressed, there really weren't many with photos, much less decent photos, (although I do realise the more high profile gents prefer not to put up their mug shots, preferring anonymity). I'm not looking for the highest quality standard, best looking, wealthiest man (or men) by any means, I am trying to read between the lines and see who has a real personality, but I do think a good quality photo says a lot about the profile owner... having said that, I guess the ones with photos would receive massive amounts of correspondence. After I put my photos up I got a couple of small 'bites' but nothing major... I've sent a few messages out now so will see if anyone responds... the age thing will probably be against me.

Marketing strategy

Well I'm signed up to a few sites now, profiles and photos all approved... there are loads of seemingly great guys in New York and L.A. but to be honest it's slim pickings for SD's in London, which is disappointing. Given that I'm not 'young' sugar any more, even though I look substantially younger than I am, I think I'm going to have to go on the prowl and make the first contact - just a feeling I have. I viewed a lot of profiles, and have added loads into my favourites, so we'll see if I get any responses 'cause so far I've not had a single nibble. My pics are good, I think it's down to age - men are so predictable with these things.

Oh well... wish me luck!

HoneyBaby x